I have long argued – and been criticised for it in certain quarters – that the need for more than one sexual partner is a more natural human condition than monogamy. Monogamy is something forced upon us by society, not something we were born with. Of course, the accusation of promiscuity is normally thrown at gays and, yes, I’ll admit that we do tend to be less rigid in our approach to sex (but I see that as an advantage, not a curse). The hidden message is always that promiscuity is bad, monogamy is good. One recent blogger actually suggested that promiscuous gays are ’whores’, and that’s a blogger who claims to understand gay men! So today I was delighted to find this excellent – if rather long – article about heterosexual open relationships in The Guardian Weekend. Enjoy, and by all means comment either here or there!
As a footnote I am compelled to say that if monogamy is so great and fulfilling, why is there such a demand for menage (hetero, straight or bi) books? And who reads them? Married women, I believe, are big fans.